anxiety

[raven]

Things that are causing me to be anxious at the moment, a non-exhaustive list:

1. Sleeping (ahaha, it is a hollow laughter);

2. Wedding, comma, the one this weekend (what if it all goes wrong! what if everyone hates everyone else! what if the friend-of-a-friend band don't turn up! what if I FALL ON MY FACE! what if the carefully constructed schedule all falls to pieces! my entire family are coming! it will be just another instance of my inability to do anything right! (see also 5!) oh hell);

3. Wedding, comma, the one in December, the one that is ages away (ages away! ages! John Lewis are selling Christmas stuff!);

4. Welcome to Night Vale (I haven't listened to the latest episode - what if Carlos and Cecil break up? what will I doooo? self, are you really so invested in a half-hour podcast about made-up people? yes yes yes, oh help)

5. Continued unemployment (I had three job interviews last week - it looks like I have not got any of the three jobs);

6. yuletide nominations (it looks so complicated! there has been so much on it I've missed! if I nominate anything it will all go wrong and I will be one of those people who cannot follow simple instructions!);

7. Writing. Can't do it any more. Not a word. Making a speech on Saturday that I haven't written. Hi.

Largely due to (1) and (3), I am not on Twitter or Tumblr a lot this week.

Things that are not causing me to be anxious at the moment, an exhaustive list:

1. Shim;

2. Parks and Recreation (post coming on WHY I LOVE THIS STUPID SHOW SO MUCH, spoilers it has to do with municipal land use and planning!);

3. BBC Alba (I wish I were kidding. I just watched a thoughtful news report on the status of minority languages in Europe. I understood about one word in ten. It was great.).

4. Shim.

Comments

[musesfool]

*hugs*

I wouldn't worry too much about yuletide. I have been watching the spreadsheet and fully 3/4 of the things I planned to nominate have already been nominated, so even if you sit that round out, you will likely find what you want on the fandom list when signups open.

[isis]

Yay Shim!

Good luck!

[sir_guinglain]

Three job interviews in a week is more than I have in three years... you are not doing too badly, I'd say. Also anxiety about one's wedding is, I'd say, entirely comprehensible, particularly when it's the first of two.

[catwalksalone]

*hugs*

So for the sake of #1, try to take all the other anxieties one at a time. #3 is not an issue until #2 is done! You can't fix #5 this week either, so stick that in a box and sit on it. #4 you can slip in if you have time. If not, tell #5 to shift over and make room. What is the worst thing that will happen if your noms go wrong? Is it life-threatening? If no, then eat #6 with a nice cup of tea.

#7 will take care of itself once you've eased up on yourself re #1-6.

In conclusion: you are getting married this weekend and even if something does goes wrong it will still be awesome because YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED. What's the point in perfection anyway? <33333

[lamentables]

Whatever happens your wedding will be awesome. I know this; I have relevant experience.

Breathe.

Relax. And if you can't relax, drink.

[soupytwist]

I am wishing you all the luck in the world, lovely, but I don't think you'll need it because:

1. you are marrying Shim, and I can see where Shim is on that list you just wrote. Even if the day itself is not exactly how it "should" be, that detail is the important one.

2. THREE JOB INTERVIEWS. Seriously, given the short time you've been on the market (comparatively - I am sure it feels FOREVER), that is amazing. Not even beginning to be kidding, that is very impressive and it says excellent things about your chances.

3. I am pretty sure nothing awful happened in Night Vale even though I haven't heard it yet either.

4. I don't think anyone really gets the new Yuletide thing yet but we will muddle through.

5. *HUGS*

[philomytha]

Sending you more hugs and reassuring noises from here. It will be well. Hang on to Shim and let the rest deal with itself.

[raven]

You know, you're right - people other than me will def nominate Parks and Rec and Rivers of London! thank you for hugs. :)

[raven]

thank you! :)

[raven]

Thank you for your kindness, dear. :) I have poured myself some wine, yes.

[fiercynn]

I don't really know if this makes any sense, not having gone through intense wedding planning myself, but ultimately it's all about you and Shim, right? So if some of your guests don't get along, or if some tiny details don't go the way you planned, that a) doesn't mean you've failed in any way, and b) most likely won't diminish anyone's enjoyment of the wedding, because what they really care about are you guys.

Also Yuletide noms look more complicated on the surface than they are, I think - and as musesfool mentioned, you can probably sit out that whole process and be fine.

Also ALSO, I never commented on your post saying CONGRATS ON QUALIFYING TO BE A SOLICITOR, though I meant to, so, CONGRATS! The unemployment part totally sucks, but it sounds as if you are more than doing everything right, if you've had three interviews in just one week.

[raven]

Thank you. :)

[raven]

This is very sensible. thank you. :)

[raven]

*smoooosh* you are so great and so calming! L rang tonight to talk about dresses and various other things, and we talked a bit about Thursday, and then we just had to spend some time discussing HOW GREAT you are and particularly how soothing to totally stressed out people. <3 <3

[raven]

Thank you, my dear. :)

[raven]

Aww, thank you very much, my dear! Everyone is being so calm and reassuring!

[forthwritten]

If you need me to smuggle in a hipflask filled with whatever you like, you have only to say the word.

Your wedding will be wonderful. Ultimately, it is about you and Shim, and the lives you've already lived and shared, and the life you're about to live and share. We'll all be there to help you do that, not to fuss over the finickety details.

[livrelibre]

*sends soothing thoughts* 1 has to happen some time, biologically speaking. 2 & 3: the wedding isn't the most important part and doesn't have to be perfect; say I do or whatever and everything else is gravy. I can tell you 4 is not an issue and the rest will sort itself out:)

[lemon_badgeress]

I'm not so good at soothing, but perhaps if you think about a dumpy fat white girl willing to go around kicking EVERYTHING for you, you will laugh a bit! and you are GETTING MARRIED, HOORAY. <3

[cosmic_llin]

That is a lot of stuff. Sending good mojo, I'm sure it'll all turn out awesome!

[highfantastical.livejournal.com]

*gentle hugs* you are great, wonderful, and I think in the long run absolutely everything will be fine, and in the short term, the soon-wedding will be, and in the medium term, the less-soon wedding will be. xx

[tau_sigma]

Iona, Iona, breaaaaathe. Oxygen is your friend.

Everything will be fiiiiiine; if you fall on your face then we will simply pick you up and place you back on your feet, with a glass in one hand and your lovely groom on your elbow. (He is very tall; if you feel you are toppling: cling to him.)

<3

[radialarch.livejournal.com]

/sidles into post (hello would you like to be friends)

the wedding(s) & job-things sound pretty nerve-wracking and idk much but good luck :D

yt noms seem incredibly complicated and the instructions are not entirely helpful so it is definitely not just you! D:

wtnv tho -- shall refrain from spoilers but let's talk about how in "dana" cecil lovingly complains about carlos's "penchant for chewing a little too loudly"! it's a good relationship, it's a well-written relationship, i'm just saying

/sidles out

[marymac.livejournal.com]

1) Breathe.

2) It is very hard to fall over at a wedding when you are the bride, as you are at all points being held on to by or in close proximity to any or all delete-as-appropriate parents/bridesmaid/officiant/spouse/small child nobody is admitting to owning.

3) If you're really worried about falling over, bribe the small child to loudly make cheerful observations mid-ceremony, so that even if you do fall over nobody will remember.

4) Never mind the families, it's your wedding, enjoy yourself.

[brightlywoven.livejournal.com]

*hugs* you will be OK. We will not let you fall over. Except for in a good way xxx