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Sometimes I feel weird about letting this kind of thing take up space! But you've gotta give people a chance to know you. I've used they/them pronouns since 2018. That's still right, but it's she/her as well as they/them now. Both are fine, both in the same sentence especially fine.

(Wouldn't people misgender an afab nonbinary person enough for they/she to happen organically? Not my friends, family and work colleagues!)

Anyway I'm such a huge believer in your pronouns being what make you happy more than a means to reflect your innermost truths! But, well, I've been calling myself a bisexual nonbinary person and have been using they/them pronouns all this time and that was right; I've felt truthful and expansive, living that. But for the last year or two I've been saying, bi lesbian, or lesbian-leaning bisexual; and I suppose this is a new space of inhabitation. And I'm not overly concerned about people getting it "right", but if I'm laying out a preferred inhabitation, I guess this is my eternal refusenik status biting back. Genderqueer. Nonbinary, but not like that. And woman, wife, lesbian, but not female, because who is.

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Noted!

As someone whose first language doesn't even have gendered personal pronouns, your pronouns being what make you happy more than a means to reflect your innermost truths makes a ton of sense.

What language is that?

I know Hungarian doesn't through a friend who speaks it. She's functionally biligual English/Hungarian.

Finnish, which is in the same family as Hungarian.

Of course! Finno Ugric family which also contains Estonian. :o)