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Not sure I ought to have to say this, but here it is anyway: I am allowed to make fun of Indian weddings. You - white, don't-they-last-four-days-and-they're-all-colourful-tee-hee, thoughtless you - are not. Getting married in a grey church in England is not a "normal" way to get married. Thanks, glad we've cleared that up.
Anyway, so. Wedding planning has taken its great leap forwards. The Scottish shindig now has a guest list, a photographer, (probably) a cake, (probably) a ceilidh band, two readers, two witnesses, a venue, a menu and even favours, ye gods. I need to get my dress altered and am cleverly combining this with![[community profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/community.png)
vidukon_cardiff (don't even ask). We still need a playlist, a script, a last-minute narrative resolution to a continuing spat re: canapés, and sixty-five tiny screwtop jars.
The Indian wedding has dates, venues, three documents in progress (schedule; historical and religious contexts, with footnotes; visa procedures, a beginner's guide) a vague guest list, invitation wording if not actual invitations (I drafted this yesterday while putting up with heckling from all sides), a cast of thousands, and a certain sense that Things Are Getting Done. Not by me, I hasten to add. But done.
My to-do list is still in three parts and synced between three devices. But... hurrah? I think?
(I think I shall pre-emptively declare 2014 the Year of the Hammock, With No To-Do Lists At All.)
(I hope to begin it in a houseboat in Srinagar.)
Anyway, so. Wedding planning has taken its great leap forwards. The Scottish shindig now has a guest list, a photographer, (probably) a cake, (probably) a ceilidh band, two readers, two witnesses, a venue, a menu and even favours, ye gods. I need to get my dress altered and am cleverly combining this with
vidukon_cardiff (don't even ask). We still need a playlist, a script, a last-minute narrative resolution to a continuing spat re: canapés, and sixty-five tiny screwtop jars. The Indian wedding has dates, venues, three documents in progress (schedule; historical and religious contexts, with footnotes; visa procedures, a beginner's guide) a vague guest list, invitation wording if not actual invitations (I drafted this yesterday while putting up with heckling from all sides), a cast of thousands, and a certain sense that Things Are Getting Done. Not by me, I hasten to add. But done.
My to-do list is still in three parts and synced between three devices. But... hurrah? I think?
(I think I shall pre-emptively declare 2014 the Year of the Hammock, With No To-Do Lists At All.)
(I hope to begin it in a houseboat in Srinagar.)
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Oh. Ugh. (At them, not you.)
Good luck with all of the planning! It sounds exhausting, but like you're well on the way. What sort of dates are you looking at?
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(Also, are you coming to the Banquet? Please say you are!)
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<3
eta: obviously a massive DNW to anyone making fun. *hugs*
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(yes yes yes! A and I will be there with bells on.)
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(ALSO: what kind of dress code are you going for for the Scottish Shindig?)
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Jealous of your houseboat. I saw a picture once and the amount I want to go and see one for real is rather staggering. Maybe one day.
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(It's a very old daydream of mine, the Dal Lake in the winter! I'm shamefully more excited about it than the actual wedding.)
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It may sound slightly ludicrous that they are involved at all in these decisions, given I am nearly 26, but I need them to help me pay for tickets - and it's so wearing living with their anxiety about me going to places alone that it will all be much better if I can secure their wholehearted endorsement. Which I think I will. Planning to discuss it very firmly in early March when all three of us will be sunk in deep despair and thus they're likely to get on board with anything future-oriented.
TL;DR - excited and making plans. ;)
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(Btw, I mentioned to my mother last night that you were planning on coming - if it'd be at all helpful for your parents to speak to her (either as-my-mum or as-medical-professional-who-will-be-there) she'd be very happy to help.)
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(Why shouldn't you be? It sounds glorious! And much less stressful than weddings.)
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(Also, I may have been explaining your awesomeness at great length at a party yesterday. It was relevant!)
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I just thought that bore saying. <3
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Urg of people *making fun* though! WTF.
xx
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If you're still looking for jam jars, my mum got 50 200ml ones online for about a tenner at Christmas. From this experience, I would advise trying to put anything hot or liquid in them, unless you have someone who fills test tubes for their day-job handy.
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I come by my random information retention honestly, apparently.
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I don't have much nice to say about white people and wedding preparations; this has tripped up several attempts at commenting. In many ways, I feel like weddings bring so many assumptions and prejudices that people may or may not otherwise voice under other circumstances to the surface. I was horrified by some of the things my family members said when we were planning our wedding and what that revealed about their beliefs and assumptions. I'm so sorry people are saying thoughtless, racist things to you.
The Year of the Hammock sounds like a wonderful plan.
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