wedding planning notes

[raven]

Not sure I ought to have to say this, but here it is anyway: I am allowed to make fun of Indian weddings. You - white, don't-they-last-four-days-and-they're-all-colourful-tee-hee, thoughtless you - are not. Getting married in a grey church in England is not a "normal" way to get married. Thanks, glad we've cleared that up.

Anyway, so. Wedding planning has taken its great leap forwards. The Scottish shindig now has a guest list, a photographer, (probably) a cake, (probably) a ceilidh band, two readers, two witnesses, a venue, a menu and even favours, ye gods. I need to get my dress altered and am cleverly combining this with vidukon_cardiff (don't even ask). We still need a playlist, a script, a last-minute narrative resolution to a continuing spat re: canapés, and sixty-five tiny screwtop jars.

The Indian wedding has dates, venues, three documents in progress (schedule; historical and religious contexts, with footnotes; visa procedures, a beginner's guide) a vague guest list, invitation wording if not actual invitations (I drafted this yesterday while putting up with heckling from all sides), a cast of thousands, and a certain sense that Things Are Getting Done. Not by me, I hasten to add. But done.

My to-do list is still in three parts and synced between three devices. But... hurrah? I think?

(I think I shall pre-emptively declare 2014 the Year of the Hammock, With No To-Do Lists At All.)

(I hope to begin it in a houseboat in Srinagar.)

Comments

[highfantastical.livejournal.com]

My parents are still loath to let me travel to places on my own but I am working on them since I REALLY WANT TO COME! At the moment I think they're much more anxious about Edinburgh than India because although it's nearer my last trip there wasn't wholly successful (understatement of the century). But this is entirely different because wedding. (And I love the city, obvs.)

It may sound slightly ludicrous that they are involved at all in these decisions, given I am nearly 26, but I need them to help me pay for tickets - and it's so wearing living with their anxiety about me going to places alone that it will all be much better if I can secure their wholehearted endorsement. Which I think I will. Planning to discuss it very firmly in early March when all three of us will be sunk in deep despair and thus they're likely to get on board with anything future-oriented.

TL;DR - excited and making plans. ;)

[loneraven.livejournal.com]

My dear, my parents are planning my wedding to the point of telling me what to say, what to do, when to turn up and whom to invite. I'll be 27. It is an accident of circumstance. :)

(Btw, I mentioned to my mother last night that you were planning on coming - if it'd be at all helpful for your parents to speak to her (either as-my-mum or as-medical-professional-who-will-be-there) she'd be very happy to help.)

[littlered2.livejournal.com]

I frequently get told by my parents that I am not dressed warmly enough, or to be careful of hot things. Oh, parents. (Working with my mum is slightly tricky, as she tends to come over and tell me my hair/clothes are not smart enough, and then attempts to fix them. I have pointed out that she doesn't do this to the other receptionists.) Best of luck with getting through the wedding planning process without them driving you mad!

[khalinche.livejournal.com]

My mum still holds my hand when she's visiting me in the city and we cross the road.