I think (I need to rewatch, haven't for ages despite having the DVDs) that I see him that way too - in that he loves people; he's not gay or straight, and if you had to label it it'd be queer.

I getting the loving people thing too - I think it was you I had a conversation about it with on the side of the stage in St John's in final year, how actually I didn't realise until embarrassingly late that everyone didn't just love people, and gender wasn't a factor. Growing up in a village with lesbian and gay couples may have helped this, but I do remember thinking that men and women usually ended up in couples because that was how you had children, or at least the easiest way to have children.

Tangents, I have them.