But I can imagine that it's difficult, to have on one hand this strong, almost visceral bond with a group of people who share a special cultural experience with you--of being non-white, or NRI, or whatever the case may be--and then on the other hand to find that they won't accept you as an individual.

That's it. Put very neatly, that's it. The people who do accept me as an individual are as far removed as they can possibly be from my ethnicity-based culture, which I find... disconcerting.

Uh, dear HP fandom, when I said "foreign" there I was not talking about the erotic thrill of the exotic, TAKE NOTE.

Ahahahaha. Oh, god, the whole thing is so STUPID. It's so stupid it's hilarious.

(I'll send it right along! Here was me thinking I might be driving you a wee bit mental with my need for betas every five seconds...)